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I have been called many things in my life and I hold many different titles. My life experiences and schooling have provided me with these endearing titles: Counselor, Psychotherapist, Therapist, Life Coach, Grandmother, Sister and Friend. But my titles and titles you may have don’t necessarily define who we are as a person. Struggles that we go through each and every day can make us stronger individually. Our titles can change as new life lessons are placed before us to conquer. We are constantly evolving and new titles are added… read more →
I refer the reader to an article in the May-June 2009 Utne Reader written by Andrew Westoll entitled “The Mountain that Eats Men. Drinking with the Devil in a Bolivian Mine.” The article is about Bolivian miners who descend thousands of feet below the earth to work in the silver, gold, zinc and copper mines, the work of which eventually sucks the life out of them through lung disease and nameless exhaustion. The miners work from dawn to dusk with welcome breaks of alcohol drink especially concocted for their macho… read more →
As the OCD rolls over me , I can feel my mind itch now. It is focused on opening and closing the lid on a jelly glass jar. I know I feel anxious about something. But this is a good way to distract myself. I resist. I try hard not to open and close the lid. The jar falls out of my hands. I see it roll away from me. Kerplunk. Kerplunk. Forever gone, I hope. “Let it go” I tell myself…watching my body restrain itself as the urge to… read more →
Cybersex is the new sexual meeting game. It is alluring and free. It is anonymous and compelling. It is a fantasy world where folks can escape the daily routines of life. Or the demands of intimacy in a relationship, or the bottomless pit of loneliness and isolation. However, the addiction creates a lethal feedback loop that is hard to break. Once the compulsion-addiction starts to set in, cybersex eats up more and more of one’s time and creates isolation in itself. Cybersex wrecks havoc with the couple, family life as… read more →
As a kid growing up, when I was the not -too-nice daughter myself to my mother, I remember her saying to me “I only hope you will suffer with your daughters the way you made me suffer. Only then will you know how I feel.” It’s been 60 years since I remember her saying that. Ironically it has all come to fruition. Like two bookends that perfectly match. Let me explain. When I was raising my 2 girls as a single mom, the dance of life around our house was… read more →
This article has evolved from my own struggles with the chaos and despair of suffering the loss of my only beloved sister and best friend in May of 2008. The words reflect my experience of being not only a mourner but a psychotherapist. As Anne Brena describes in her book Mourning and Mitzvah, the process of mourning is a time of contraction wherein the bright light and divine energy of our world withdraw, creating a darkness with out seemingly an end. When my sister died, I felt like all the… read more →
This article has evolved from my own struggles with the chaos, depression, anxiety, despair of a loss of my only beloved sister and best friend in May of 2008. It reflects my experience of loss not only of a mourner but a psychotherapist. As Anne Brener describes in her book Mourning and Mitzvah, the process of mourning is a time of contraction wherein the bright light and divine energy of our world withdraw. This creates a darkness without seemingly an end. When my sister died, I felt like all the… read more →
Dr. Gabi Kramer practices therapy in Berkeley and has over 30 years of counseling experience.